- Common misconceptions,
- Does temptation lead to rape?
- The dehumanizing factor,
- An example of someone who lost control of certain aspects of his mind
So some people usually have a lot of misconceptions regarding what could have possibly caused a rape incident: was the victim in a high risk area? Was the victim wearing revealing clothing? Why would a normal person rape another normal person, there must something wrong in the environment or external factors?
To dig deep into these misconceptions and deconstruct them we need to understand what these people are saying. They’re saying that there was a certain factor that turned on someone which led to rape. That something tempted the perpetrator and they couldn’t control their urge that is why they did it.
One of the many problems in this type of thinking is that you have blurred or maybe erased the line, the thick, bold line, between the forceful physical act of violating someone, and the subtle mental alarm that rings when you find someone or something that attracts you.
So let’s talk about attractiveness first:
We know that everyone has a different preference with respect to who they find attractive. Lets say you find someone attractive who has a certain type of physique. Now imagine if you are walking down the street, a person walks by you, they are wearing baggy clothes and you are not sure whether they do or don’t have the physique you like so you don’t have enough information to decide whether you find them attractive or not. So clothes may sometimes play a part in determining attractiveness. But it is still important to note that attractiveness doesn’t have to lead to sexual thoughts. You can find someone attractive without wanting to force yourself on them. Maybe you get butterflies in your stomach when you see an attractive stranger on the road but that still doesn’t mean that you are picturing them in your bed. Not all interactions are at that level.
Now that we have talked about attractiveness that has to do with nonsexual thoughts, let’s talk about attractiveness that does lead to sexual thoughts. This is what we are calling temptation.
If you are tempted by someone means you get a strong feeling or urge to be with that person, you can’t stop thinking about them. You may pursue them romantically or try to engage them in a conversation or simply fantasize about them. But ultimately your gameplay would be to make them like you enough to give you some space in their life and in their heart so that you have their permission to fulfill your desires related to them. If you have no means of interaction, you will just fantasize but still not take any step that jeopardizes their full autonomy over themselves, their mind and body.
The above two in no way instigate someone to commit a crime. These are normal human feelings that alot of people go through without commiting rape. So it is definitely possible to feel all those things but still not commit a crime at the end. The thought of forcing yourself on to someone to scratch that itch of yours has to do more with who you are rather than who the victim is. Temptation or attractiveness arises because of your opinion about someone else, you will know whether you find someone attractive or not. The stimulation is coming from the other person. But if you are planning to rape someone you are doing it to please yourself only. In this case the stimulation is coming from your own brain.
Rape is a forceful act, it can involve a stranger or someone you know, there is no certain victim age, victims don’t even have to be alive, infact they don’t even have to be humans.
Forcing yourself on someone and violating them so brutally would require that you dehumanize them first, that you don’t sympathize or empathize with them at all, that you forget that they have the ability to feel. This is psychotic behavior. This is in no way normal and therefore can not be linked to attraction or temptation.
There was a case of a person who had suffered a physical trauma. After regaining his health he noticed a difference in his behavior. He could not get enough of all sorts of disturbing porn, so much so that he even got into child material. He was arrested for it. He tried to convince the judge that he was infact sick and it was out of his control. The doctors found out from MRIs that a part of his brain was indeed affected due to the physical trauma he had suffered before. This was a first of its kind case and they sent him to prison for his actions.
The conclusion being that everything on which the decision, to commit the crime of rape, depends on is inside the mind of the perpetrator.